Author Description

While affairs cause raised eyebrows and whispers behind closed doors, we all know that they are a prevalent and inescapable part of life. Marriage is difficult, and monogamy is perhaps even tougher. The isolation and conflicting demands that can come from maintaining a suburban life offer additional challenges. In TO LOVE, HONOR AND BETRAY, Stephanie Gertler and Adrienne Lopez take an intimate look into the lives of 26 women, many of whom would describe themselves as happily married and with no thought of divorce. Between the ages of 35 and 70, from various cultures, races, economic levels, and backgrounds, they are stay-at-home mothers, lawyers, PhD's, writers, musicians, athletes, artists, and businesswomen. Most have children. All crave passion, intimacy, conversation, and romance. And when those aren't forthcoming from their marriages, they look for it elsewhere, and with varying results. Separated into three sections, the book looks at women who have had affairs in the past, are currently having affairs, and who are thinking about having affairs. Neither condoning nor judgmental, TO LOVE, HONOR, AND BETRAY is like a candid conversation with 26 close friends, and these women expose their lives and experiences in ways that are surprising, moving, and offer remarkable insight into the complexity of long-term relationships. This is a book that women have been waiting for, and a distinctively honest and sensitive portrayal of the secret epidemic of married women's infidelity.