Author Description

Susan Forward breaks new ground with Emotional Blackmail. Drawing on real-life case histories, she illuminates the intricate dynamics of blackmail and helps you understand the kind of blackmailer you're facing: Punishers let you know exactly what they want - and the consequences you face if you don't give it to them; Self-Punishers turn the threats inward, telling you what they'll do to themselves if you don't give in; Sufferers are talented blamers and guilt-peddlers who make us figure out what they want and then conclude that it is up to us to ensure they get it; Tantalizers put us through a series of tests and hold out a promise of something wonderful if we'll just give them their way. Each of these blackmailers has a special way of surrounding you with a blinding FOG - the Fear, Obligation and Guilt that become the very atmosphere of life with a blackmailer and take the safety and trust out of what is a basically good relationship. FOG is so penetrating and bewildering that you'll do anything to stop the discomfort it produces - including giving in to a blackmailer's demands. In her unique, clear and compassionate style, Forward shows you techniques for burning through the FOG of emotional blackmail. She'll help you take an objective look at what you're giving up to your blackmailer and decide if you're ready to resist. Once you've made your decision, Forward gives you word-for-word communication skills and actual scripts for presenting your decision to your blackmailer; then her four core strategies will empower you to hold your ground. With Susan Forward by your side, you'll soon change the power balance of your relationship, regaining your integrity and breaking the blackmail cycle - for good.