Author Description

Dr. Cliff Self and his wife, Darlene, did not choose their journey; they were thrust into it. After their son, Scott, came out to them as a gay man, Dr. Self and Darlene were propelled along a confusing path that caused them to question their understanding of God and the scripture and eventually to reach deep inside to find the grit and grace to experience miraculous changes. When Scott revealed his true self, the family's world changed. The Selfs had to come to a new understanding of their relationships with one another and to their faith, framed by the conviction that the Bible is the word of God and the authority on how to live. Darlene struggled with shattered dreams, Dr. Self strove to understand the Christian teachings on homosexuality through scripture, and Scott battled with guilt, shame, and addiction until discovering the meaning of self-love and his path to wholeness as a gay man. In this candid and revealing account, all three family members offer inspiration for handling unexpected changes without fear, resolving conflicts between scripture and real life issues, and ultimately living with peace, joy, and purpose. After This is the moving narrative of one family's journey through the healing process of change after their son came out as a gay man.