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Every couple fights—but the strongest couples learn how to fight with clarity, compassion, and purpose. If you’re stuck in the same exhausting arguments… If you shut down emotionally or feel unheard when things get tense… If your needs always seem to spark more conflict instead of connection… You don’t need more silence or shouting. You need a plan. The F.I.G.H.T. Plan is your step-by-step roadmap for transforming relationship tension into powerful moments of growth, healing, and deeper intimacy. Created by Carlos Todd, PhD, LCMHC, a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor with over 25 years of experience and more than 1,000 couples served, this workbook combines real therapy tools with real-world practicality. You’ll gain the confidence and skills to: Prepare for hard conversations without defensiveness or blame Understand emotional triggers and avoid getting overwhelmed Use proven communication tools to stop arguments before they spiral Reconnect after conflict with compassion and clarity Build habits that support lifelong emotional and relational growth The F.I.G.H.T. Framework Built around a powerful 5-step model, this workbook teaches couples how to: F – Framework: Set boundaries and define your communication patterns I – Introspection: Explore personal baggage and emotional reflexes G – Ground Rules: Agree on what’s off-limits during conflict H – Healing & Repair: Rebuild trust and emotional closeness after fights T – Transformation: Create new patterns, new rituals, and a new future Interactive. Practical. Change You Can Feel. Includes QR codes to over 25 exclusive online exercises, including: Self-reflection prompts Relationship quizzes Guided conflict-resolution activities Whether you’re dating, engaged, or years into marriage… This workbook will help you: Communicate without escalating Rebuild emotional connection after arguments Replace destru