Author Description

"Without the right tools you can't do the job." In this book you will learn the 3 essential tool-sets to heal past damage, prevent further damage, clarify misunderstandings or misperceptions, and resolve problems in ways that work for both of you. These skills are not just nice or useful, they are absolutely necessary to preserve the friendship and resolve all conflicts as they occur. Problems and conflicts will naturally occur, but without these skills they can create lasting issues and disconnections that can lead to divorce. Many books deal with conflict management and problem solving, but the skills of clarification are critical to preventing misperceptions from taking root, clarifying requests so they can be honored, and understanding the BEHAVIORS in complaints and requests that will allow necessary changes to happen. It's not about the individuals in the relationship, it's about the behaviors that have (unintended) negative effects and need to change. These skills make behavior change possible, guaranteeing stability and a deepening joy in the relationship.